Did I read that right? Screw New Year’s Resolutions? But what do I do with all these good intentions? Don’t worry; I am not suggesting you throw the baby out with the bathwater. I want you to imagine what would your life be like if you really did the best you could in each moment instead of setting yourself up for failure. 

Think about it. Instead of vowing: to exercise 2 hours a day, quit smoking, eat nothing but fish and veggies, God forbid give up bacon, organize the house, keep the car washed once a…

2018 is almost over.  What have you been dreaming of accomplishing but still haven't managed to make it happen?  What is the story in your head that is getting in your way?  Does it sound something like this: 
 "I am not smart enough, pretty enough, educated enough, rich enough, focused enough, skinny enough?"  
When you notice these stories don't worry; you are not alone.  It is human nature to have self-doubt. When you notice these stories it's time for an old fashioned kick in the pants!  How do you kick…

As Valentine’s Day approaches many of us experience anxiety around finding the perfect gift for our beloved. Scouring store shelves to find just the right card or gift, we encounter items that seem lackluster and cliched. What if there was a way to really know our partners and help them to feel really loved on a deep level each day? Listening is the answer. 

“Listening?” You might think. “I already listen to my honey.” Authentic listening is a learned skill. It is not listening for a break in the…

People want to believe that they don’t care about what other people think of them. The reality is that we all care somewhat how others perceive us. We want people to like us. On a primal level we need other people for our survival; so if people don’t like us we feel threatened. We may feel the need to defend our position. Sadly, doing this has a paradoxical effect. The very way we try to restore our survival actually threatens it more. Taking things personally and defending our position causes more damage…

Recently a friend posted a picture on Facebook of a large piece of Swiss cheese with a little mouse poking out of one of the holes. She said “I think I’d like to crawl in a hole and hide.” This got me thinking. Does life really have to be so stressful? Is this why they call it a rat race? Can’t we just watch the race? 

We are conditioned in our culture to want more. More clothes, more food, more furniture, more gadgets, more money to buy more things… What if less is more? 
As someone who left the…

In kindergarten we were taught to be nice to others. As we grew older we were taught to not be self-centered and to think of others. As humans we tend to enjoy the company of others, especially if they are being nice to us. So when does “being nice” cross into the more harmful “too nice”? If you are feeling like a doormat, being taken advantage of, or feeling manipulated then you may have fallen into a coping pattern of being too nice.  

How do I know if I am being too nice?

Take the quiz here:

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Have you wondered if it would be worth it to work with a professional? Here are just a few of the many benefits of working with a coach or counselor:  

• Feel really understood.
• Increase self esteem.
• Have more satisfying friendships.
• Restore intimacy in romantic relationships.
• Improve family interactions.
• Get clear about what really inspires you.
• Increase motivation.
• Set goals.
• Be held accountable.
• Learn communication skills.
• Learn how to enjoy the present moment.
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