Are you in a TOXIC relationship?
Toxic relationships are not just the romantic kind; they can show up in parent/child relationships, with co-workers, members of groups, employees, friends, relatives.
Take this short true/false quiz to see if you are in a toxic relationship:
1. I feel energized after spending time with this person.
2. My feelings are welcomed and often validated.
3. Support around life’s problems is offered equally.
4. Frustrations are expressed in a clear, respectful manner.
5. Insults or name-calling are not used in my relationship.
6. I don’t ever feel manipulated in this relationship.
7. Sharing new ideas is welcomed and met with interest.
8. My time is valued and respected.
9. Physical boundaries are respected. We never physically hurt each other.
10. I do not feel guilty taking care of myself in this relationship.
If you answered false to one or more of these statements there may be some toxic elements in your relationship. The more that you answered false, the more likely you are in a toxic relationship.
Here are some signs you may be in a toxic relationship:
You feel drained after spending time with someone.
You barely can can get a word in during the conversation.
The person is critical of you and may even call you names.
You feel like you need to ask permission to do something.
You feel like you are walking on eggshells around this person.
You notice you change your behavior to avoid their wrath.
You feel less and less confident around this person.
You often feel angry around this person.
You sometimes feel scared around this person.
You do not feel safe to be yourself around this person.
You feel like you need to do things their way.
You find yourself wishing you were somewhere else when with this person.
OK, so you are in a toxic relationship. What now?
You do not have to go it alone anymore.
At Best Life Therapy we help people break free of toxic relationships and avoid entering into new ones.
Tracey Ashcraft, MA, Licensed Professional Counselor and Coach has a passion for helping people live their best lives. She has been working in private practice, counseling and coaching clients since 2004. She helps clients with:
- college stress
- midlife crises
- career changes
- grief and loss
- toxic relationships
What does she bring to the table?
Armed with extensive training on the treatment of depression, over 10 years of award winning territory sales management, a masters degree in counseling, and 10 years experience helping hundreds of people live their best lives, Tracey is here to help.
“I have a knack for helping people feel hopeful again. When people hire me they no longer feel alone. They have someone on their team. I will help you get clear about your direction in life, get in touch with your life passions and life purpose, set goals and create a success plan.”
What makes her different from other counselors and coaches out there?
“I tell it like it is. When I see you screwing up I’m gonna tell you. If your skirt is tucked into your underwear when you come out of the bathroom, don’t you want someone to tell you? Why do I tell it like it is? Because when I work with you I really care about you. I offer a down to earth, tell it like it is, sometimes humorous approach to getting you off the couch and into a life that you are excited to live.
Not everyone is going to want or need what I offer, but if you are tired of being a doormat, or sitting on the sidelines, or feeling stuck in a job that sucks the life outta you, then pay attention to what you read here. Best Life Therapy offers the kick in the pants you need to get your life on the right track.”
What should I do next?
If you think you need more support, then I would suggest that we have a free telephone consultation to see if I am a good fit for you. I look forward to talking with you soon!
or send me an email firstname.lastname@example.org
Telephone coaching sessions available.