Best Life Therapy
Counseling. Therapy. Coaching.
Are you wondering if you should stay or leave your relationship?
Do you find that you:
• feel like no matter how hard you try, it is never good enough with your partner?
• think “If I just try harder, my partner will show me love.”?
• secretly feel relieved when you get to go to work and get away from the drama at home?
• Feel like you are walking on eggshells around your partner, fearful of the next temper tantrum?
• Shaping your behaviors at home to avoid the wrath?
• Feel like you are going crazy and that no one understands what you go through each day?
• Feel like the more you give, the more your partner needs?
• Feel guilty for thinking of leaving your partner but feel if you stay you will suffocate?
You can get on the right track! With guidance you will have a shift in the way you think that can help you feel free to be your true self:
As a result you will find:
• You are less likely to take things personally.
• You look to yourself rather than others for how you are doing.
• You will understand that you don’t need to feel guilty for taking care of your own needs.
• You will no longer feel like you are going crazy.
• You will get very clear about what you want in life.
• You can feel good about putting yourself first in your life.
You are not alone.
How you are feeling is a very common way people respond to living with someone that is emotionally intense. Many times these emotionally intense people are dealing with personality disorders such as Borderline Personality Disorder, Dependent Personality or some form of Narcissism. People that end up in relationships with someone that is emotionally intense, tend to be pleasers. You may find you want to “get it right” to ensure that you are loved. You may be a perfectionist in some areas of your life. You may be hard on yourself never feeling quite good enough. There is hope for you. With the guidance of a therapist that understands your situation, a whole new way to see life comes into view.
• You learn to trust yourself no matter what other people tell you.
• You stop blaming yourself for other people’s unhappiness.
• You learn that taking care of your own needs is not only ok it is necessary.
• You are not a bad person for taking care of your own needs.
• You no longer shape your behaviors to avoid the wrath or drama of those around you.
• You feel free to be you.
I have tried working with other therapists. Nothing significant changes. What would make this time any different?
What my clients come to find is they start to feel hopeful pretty quickly when working with someone that understands the intensity of the interactions they have been dealing with. There are no quick fix band-aid solutions. They appreciate that we dig underneath the surface to understand what has put them in this situation in life in the first place.
I don’t want to waste what is left of my life in years of therapy.
Because we get to the root of the problem, our work together goes more quickly than you may think. It is counterintuitive – slowing things down actually speeds up the process.
How can you help me know what to do if I can’t figure it out myself?
When we work together I have no hidden agendas. I help you to see things that may be out of your awareness. My role is part detective, part puzzle builder, and part guide. Having me on your team gives you the room to get clear about what you need to do in order to be happy.
What have others experienced?
It is truly a gift when I get to witness a client start to allow themselves the self-care they deserve. Some clients decide to stay in their relationships. Armed with new coping skills and a better understanding of their own triggers, they feel happier in their relationships. Others decide that they are ready to move on. They leave with a knowing that they tried everything they could do on their end to heal the relationship. They gain perspective that the only person you can really change is your own self.
Why work with Tracey Ashcraft, MA, LPC ?
Tracey Ashcraft, MA, LPC has been helping people cope with emotionally intense relatives for over 15 years. Armed with a Masters Degree in Counseling, a healthy dose of down-to-Earth humor and a strong passion for helping people really live their best lives, Tracey is here to help.
“I have a knack for helping people feel hopeful again. When people work with me they no longer feel alone with their shit; they have someone on their team. I want my clients to be free of the suffering they endure from emotionally intense partners and to start living the life they are meant to live.”
What should I do next?
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